Because of these new dating parameters, defining a relationship can be tricky. We have to ask ourselves what we want from this new connection - and on the flip side, what does our partner want from us?
Do they want something more or less serious? Are they open to options? In fact, many couples end up with a different understanding of their situationship. After developing feelings for a particular partner, it becomes trickier, and at this point we have to make a decision between voicing our desire for exclusivity, or continuing to explore other avenues.
Instead, your relationship becomes a facade. There are a few ways to determine this. Explore what sexuality means to each of you. For some, sex is a way to connect. For others, it is a duty and not a huge interest.
For others, it is a playground. If sex is important, you want the flame of desire to be present, or you may find yourself going through the motions of sex and resenting it later on. How do you introduce this person if you run into someone from high school?
Gah, the anxiety. Relationship ambiguity can be mind-boggling. Lo and A-Rod went from dating exclusively to a couple to about-to-be married. Their fascinating relationship timeline, here:. Your goal is to be committed to each other in a monogamous relationship, but you still have to test drive things out a bit longer. You know, just to be sure.
You gotta make sure the other person is okay with sleeping with the fan on or your strict reality TV schedule, you know? The main thing is, you see potential and are mutually willing to work toward a future to see if you're truly compatible. This exclusive-dating process means your lives are starting to become naturally more entwined. Maybe you start hanging out with his friend group regularly on weekends, or you bookmark a funny meme to send him later because it reminded you of him.
All that said, exclusive dating does not mean that this person is your boyfriend or girlfriend. You actually call each other. To see how each other's days went or make plans for Friday night. You've had a disagreement and worked through it. You couldn't believe how easy it was to resolve the issue, having been with so many people before who didn't listen to you or try to see your side of the story. You've told your family about him. You're proud to be dating him and want your mom to know you're done with skinny-leg Jed or whoever.
You told the other people you've gone out with you don't want to see them anymore because you found someone you really like. Naturally, this is quite satisfying. And not just because you can delete "Devin Can't Make Plans" from your phone and never deal with an annoying text from him again, but because you can't wait to focus all your energy on one person. You have no desire to play games with him.
All that stuff about the three-day rule, making him want you, and god knows what other hocus pocus your friends write all their texts by?
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